It was just a few days ago when I drove and dropped off my travel buddy for her backpacking trip. I know what you must be thinking, “Why didn’t you go with her?” Trust me, I’ve asked myself the same thing. Why didn’t I go?
But the truth is: sometime life can get in the way, you may have commitments, maybe you have medical issues, you are completely broke or it could just be that you are holding yourself back. Regardless of the reasons it may be, it still sucks when you can’t travel with your travel buddy. Keep in mind, travel buddy can mean friends, siblings, boyfriend/ girlfriend, husband/wife, etc.
Here are the ways on how to cope with not being able to travel with your travel buddy:
1) Accept it
Before Stacey had left for her backpacking trip, I had mixed emotions: I was happy for her but at the same time I was feeling sad, mad at myself, jealous, etc. At one point, I thought to myself that it’s not fair. It is so easy to give in to these emotions. But I ask myself, “why do I want to make myself feel bad and complain when I have no control over the situation? Is it really worth my time to continue putting myself through this misery?
Regardless of all my different emotions, I had to learn to just… Accept it. Once you are able to accept the situation, it becomes easier to deal with it. Your feelings will change so you can become more positive. You may not be able to control the situation but you CAN control your thoughts and feelings.
So don’t beat yourself up if you find yourself not being able to travel at the moment. Remember, it’s never really too late to travel when an opportunity arise.
2) Don’t let jealousy take over you
Let’s be honest, we all get a little jealous of one another when we find out that one person has been to a place we haven’t been. Jealousy is not a great feeling to have so why carry it around with you? It normally leads to another feeling such as anger, resentment, unhappiness and negative thinking, which in turn, can affect your way of living life and being healthy – mentally and emotionally.
Jealousy is a natural feeling but it is up to you not to feed into it. Once you start feeling this way, the first thing to do is be aware of it. When you start becoming aware of the jealousy issue, then you can tackle it by shifting your perspectives. Start thinking of all the good things that already have happened for you. Appreciate what you do have, not many people had the opportunity to do so. Not to say that you should ever compare yourself to anyone else nor should they with you but to remember that it shouldn’t matter what anyone else has or does because life is just too short.
Bottom line: Jealousy is just a complete waste of time and energy -so draining that it is just not worth it.
3) Be Supportive
It is okay to be happy for someone else. In fact, it is fundamental for a healthy relationship. When you truly can be happy for someone else, you will reap all the benefits that comes with it.
-When you are happy for others, you create happiness with yourself.
It really shows what type of person you are. When you share compassion and love with others, it is an act of selflessness, which helps you build your self-esteem. Happiness is quite infectious, that people can feel it and will want to be around you in such a positive environment.
-Be inspired by others
Instead of being jealous, let them inspire you instead.
– Team Work
“The nicest thing about teamwork is that you always have others on your side”- Margaret Carty. Isn’t that a beautiful quote? When you support others, you can find support from them.
4) Become a Local Nomad
Just because your travel buddy is traveling out of the country doesn’t mean you can’t still adopt the nomad life. The world may be big but we often forget that our own country have amazing sights and activities to do. No matter how long you may live in the country, there is never enough to see. There are many places that often go unnoticed because people usually focused on main attractions.
5) Set New Goals
As I mentioned above, it is not worth wasting your time by beating yourself up on what should have been, being jealous or whatever, instead focus on yourself. Make new goals for yourself. It can be anything such as learning a new language, cooking more often, exercising, saving more money, etc.
As for me, I often find myself making new travel goals and constantly updating it each day. I usually do research on the areas that I want to travel to and always being on the lookout for great travel deals. I find it to be motivating and exciting because it helps me look forward to the future.
6) Stay Busy
To overcome the negative feelings you may have, it is a great idea to keep busy. I highly encourage exercise as a great way to stay busy because it releases endorphin, which helps you feel good about yourself. This is a great way to beat the depression. Another way to keep busy is by connecting with the blogging community, I find them as a great support system and great motivation. Find part time jobs or do odd jobs. Follow the goals you set up for yourself. There are many things to do to stay busy! The list is endless.
7) Build Your Travel Funds
Come on, everyone wants to save money. I have read many travel bloggers are able to travel because they were able to save. While you take this time off from traveling, use this opportunity to build your travel funds.
Want to know how you can start saving money quickly? Check out my other post on saving money.
So when things don’t go with the way you plan and you find yourself not being able to join your travel buddy, it is really not the end of the world. There will always be abundant of other opportunities. Don’t feel so bad about not being able to travel at the moment, instead embrace the moment that you are alive at this very moment and live it, whether it is in your own country or on the other side of the world.
Do you ever had this experience? How do you cope with it?